Time cures many things, but it pales in comparison to what love can heal. Never once did it occur to me that a period of one year could take this long to pass and be filled with so much love, warmth, and wisdom at the same time.
Last year was tough, I won’t deny it. The sequence of events that caused me to leave my homeland last year left me confused and hurt, even as I think of it now. I often wondered why were they happening to me and my loved ones, but the words that always comforted me resound in my mind even now..
Aye Ibn e Adam! Ek teri chahat hai aur ek Meri chahat hai,
Magar hoga wohi jo Meri chahat
Pas agar tu ne supard kar diya us ke, Jo Meri chahat hai,
To mein bakhsh doonga wo bhi, Jo teri chahat hai…..
In a snap I had a new house in a new country, new neighbors, a different language, and without work, without parents, family and friends around me – in a snap. Sounds like a instant sabbatical? Yes indeed – from the powers above that made me re-look at everything around me and listen to the symphony of life all over again.
Being able to spend all my time with my children was a luxury that instantly started repairing me, and with my son’s ability to say just the right thing at the right time – life was golden again. But an important question that I had no answer to: when are we all going to go back home?
Back home things became worrisome for my parents and their concern for my well-being raised my own concerns at the time. My mother’s health took immediate effect of this and she ended up on a wheel chair, from being the heart of our family gatherings. I was clueless of my future when I was leaving my children and parents at the departure lounge on a flight to Pakistan in New York JFK, and when will I see them again.
And with the blessings of the Allah, I returned back to Karachi in June with my kids and this sense of rejuvenation that adds courage and vigilance with a beautiful balance. The responsibilities I have by being a morning shows host and a life coach to millions must be taken with the highest regard, and that my work and life should increase my love and respect for my Lord each day and through every action.
It was around this time that I realized that I too need time and attention, including my health. My family and elders always advocated and impressed on me, that I should think of settling again, and frankly I was not open to it at first due to my experience in the past. But I started taking the idea seriously, as I thought of my kids and their future, our society and a woman’s life in general.
So yes, I got married on the 30th of June to Adnan Lodhi who belongs to my family and won the hearts of my parents and elders’ that turned into a proposal for me. He is the first Pakistani auctioneer of Arts in South Africa and has been a source of courage and comfort to my children and me. The wedding was a very small and close family affair to make sure I enjoyed my wedding the most. Of all the things that I am thank full for, my role as a wife and a life partner is definitely the one that intrigues me the most.
Here are some personal pictures that I promised to share:
A few people I would like to mention here and appreciate:
To Iffy Productions, thank you for capturing moments of my life that I will inshAllah cherish forever. To Saba Ansari of Sab’s Salon, loved the makeup and styling as always, and love you. To Sumaira Haris of Mibali Jewelry for fabulous set, everything was perfect thank you. And to my dear friend Zainab Chotani for the gorgeous outfit, I LOVE it, thank you.
In retrospect, the saying “whatever happens, happens for the best” could not have been more relevant to me – Alhumdulilah.
Through this huge storm, I am thankful to everyone who prayed for me and stood by me, and those who didn’t. I may not know them, but I have felt their prayers bringing ease to my situation first hand.
Today, I am stronger, happier and much more grateful for all the blessings I’ve received – because despite the hard times, they shine through brighter.
I’m presently in talks for my morning show, I will of course share the details with you soon.
Till next time, take good care of yourself.
Ps – one other point I realized during the year was the role of social media in our lives and the responsibility it has on our shoulders to ensure the news and events we discuss are fact based. Our carelessness can result in heavy damage on another person’s life and we may not be even aware. I have read some ridicules information about others, and myself and I hope these stop. I request the media to respect my husband’s decision to stay out of the media spot light, and pray that we all spread the truth and love whenever we get the chance.